This One's On You

So we've received a lot of reader mail and today it's being put to good use. Please feel free to give you advice and opinions on the following entry and if you have anything to add, don't hesitate to email us or send us a myspace message. (takeitfromus@gmail.com or www.myspace.com/takeitfromus)

Okay, so let's get to it. I think instead of full on storytelling (because I think that would talk a year or so to read), I think I'm going to just throw these out as questions so that people will actually read it and the readers who submitted their stories can get feedback. Right? Right.

1.) This was sent in as more of a story, but a lot of people deal with this, so I'm giving a bit of story, and asking a question. Basically, a female reader was being somewhat "set up" with this guy that was in a course of hers and she wasn't really feeling him. After countless attempts to politely let him down and push him away, he just wasn't getting it. He drunkenly tried to kiss her a few times and even tried sober. She pushed him away every time. Finally, when caught off guard, he went in for the kill and didn't fail. Forcefully pushing him away, our reader then went into her apartment, where he continued to call for her outside. When she asked him what was going on, he said he didn't think it would be a good idea for him to come up. She never invited him, she pushed him away in mild disgust. After she cut off contact and ignored text messages, she sent her a message asking why she had been so unfriendly. That was pretty much it. So my question is, what are we supposed to do to truly get you to go away? When is it not obvious that someone is not interested? What are the tell tale signs and how do you get them across clearly?

2.) When on vacation, one of our female readers met a guy. He doesn't actually live all that far from where she lives and he is a friend of a friend. She was leaving in the morning and he convinced her to stay up talking all night. He then offered to carry her luggage to the airport, and did so in the morning. Never did he try to pull any sleezy moves or anything, but after discussing the evening with friends, they informed her that he's a bit of a player. I informed her to keep a guard up and take your friends' warning, but to form your own opinion on him. The question though, how much consideration should you give to outsiders in situations like this? Is it worth it to let someone go by who you shared some sort of connection with because of others? There is always the possibility of getting hurt, and in a way, they're giving you the heads up that you may just be getting yourself into a situation where this is more obvious of happening.

3.) Moving onto one of our male readers, he asked what girls see in guys with uniforms (specifically he asked about sailors, but i'm generalizing it). I don't know what it is. For me, it turns me off entirely. The only thing I could come up with was that maybe the fact that the possibility of a short term fling without any sort of commitment could be appealing to some. Anyone know what this is all about?

And a tip from a male reader, that could really work both ways

Tip #15: When entering a bar/club, the reader suggested to discuss with your friends which people you are immediately physically attracted to. Have no more than five people a piece to make it fair. If one of your friend's picks comes up to you, be friendly and be sure to introduce your friend and at least attempt to get that spark between them. Sometimes it just isn't there, and it may be there for you (with your friend's pick), so in those situations, just tell you friend what's going on. They should be okay with it. If not, buy them a shot or something and help them forget all about the fact that it was their pick to begin with.

Enjoy this beautiful weekend.

xoxo
Sophie